Okay, so I learned the other day, I hate philosophical
discussions. I mean, I enjoy sitting and thinking in philosophical terms, like
the meaning of life, why things happen
the way they happen, who I am or want to be, mumbo jumbo like that. But when we
started to get into if anything anyone does is actually selfish or not, I got a
little annoyed. Not because Mr. Mullins kept telling people their examples were
wrong (because in my opinion they were) but just the fact is was brought up. I mean,
why critique someone’s view on good doing if they’re doing good? It’ll just
make them not want to do good anymore and get a “why bother” attitude. I feel
like this goes along with the say “If it aint, broke. Don’t fix it.” Because some
people probably got a little discouraged that day to do anything nice for
anyone because they’d just have the mentality that they’re being selfish. And no
one likes to feel like everything they do is selfish. I would like to bring up
something I did that may not have been selfish? And I would like feedback.
Tonight my boyfriend indirectly hurt my feelings (shocker), and I mean I was
pretty hurt. And he could tell I was hurt he just didn’t know why. And when he
asked I didn’t want to tell him because I didn't want to hurt his feelings but
he kept asking and I told him because he wanted me to. But I felt even worse
after. So by doing my boyfriend the favor of telling him what was wrong with
me, I got even more upset. Input?
I have the same issue with my parents. Perhaps the reason you are getting so upset is because- like you said- you didn't want to hurt his feelings. When I get mad, I don't want to bother telling my parents what the issue is becuase they might try to fix it by doing something I don't want them to do, almost as if their help is unecessary. I just want them to know I'm upset and not to talk to me until I figure out the solution. It's my business. That may be happening with you and your boyfriend? I don't know, I'm no psychologist. Haha :) Good luck though!
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